In a nut shell, my parents bought our home 20 years ago, and fudged on payments so they currently have a second mortgage. they know NOTHING about homes, and I know a little since I watch hgtv often. my bf took real estate classes for 2 years and knows about appraisals and such. my father lost his job and mother will not change jobs (she has a ba and a masters in church) so she only gets 18k a year. he's going to be paid until Jan. since he was laid off. He's complaining about us spending money but orders packages in the mail at least once a day. now about the house. It's s*i*. they NEVER updated their house except for the kitchen which looks terrible, cabinets from the '80's and white plastic counters (laminate maybe?) I've never seen them in ANY house before. It looks like a old school desk only with white plastic over the wood soluble stuff. the house leaks, because the roof is flat, the gutters do not work, and the master bedroom is HORRIBLE!! it's a weird shape with a closet in the middle of the room. She got this ugly laminate flooring upstairs that's not put in properly which she wants in her bedroom and her bathroom. It looks nothing like real wood it's raised bumpy and orange sort of and we have fake bricks and fake wood paneling ALL OVER!!! She bought some weird green carpet for the living/dining room that can come up in squares, and the kitchen is up higher than the living/dining by an inch because someone put tile in wrong. my sister told her "oh we just need to get rid of the clutter" our homes are a disaster!!! I don't know how they don't see this! I'm a bit of a clean freak and can't stand it but can't move out no one wants me to and I don't have income (full time student) well my parents WILL NOT listen to me when I tell them it needs to be updated, and my bf says both their homes (sisters and mothers) will be red tagged if they get inspected. my sister has a real estate friend and I'm worried he won't tell mother she needs to et things done! what can I do/say because she doesn't believe that if you put money into a home you will get anything out of it, and refuses to update it. She thinks the kitchen is wonderful, and sister finally convinced her that she needs to get rid of stuff to show it off. She also doesn't want to rent furniture or stage the home because she likes her furniture which is AWFUL!!! Father doesn't want to move his stuff he's always been a pack rat BUT wants to move! I don't understand this at all! he FREAKED out when sister said we need to find storage! he's taken OVER the living room no joke you can not walk in it or the dining room.
Finally they think they can just pack up some things and sell their homes in 3 months in the redwoods in a small town that's over priced, and move into some home that is for sale NOW but they are not looking into the future that the house may not be for sale and it may take a LONG while to sell their homes... after all if someone can buy a home that's NICE for $4000k why would they buy a crap shack for that much? There are NO homes for sale under $200k around here with more than one bedroom.
in the end your parents are going to have to learn the hard way how to NOT sell a house.. a good real estate person is going to have a talk with them about what they are doing wrong and what is the best way to sell their house..
if your sisters real estate friend does not talk to them about what needs to be done, then she is a bad real estate person..
not sure how to help you , if they won't listen to you, then they may not listen to any one else.. if they are not going to get kicked out of their home. let it stay on the market and not sell, maybe after a while your parents will come to their senses..
How do I talk to my mother about her home?
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