Brother-in-law trying to set up house with sister and they're having problems?

OK, a few days ago my brother-in-law asked me if I could help convince my sister to be a bit more domestic: getting furniture, painting the walls, putting up curtains, getting kitchen appliances. Now, my sister isn't a redneck but she's very eccentric and bohemian and doesn't believe in interior decorating. she doesn't care as long as she can sit in her own living room. she has a bunch on beanbag chairs and decorated pillows all over her living room, no kitchen or dining room table and all of their chairs, and the shelves they have for books are second hand from family or garage sales. my sister is 26. and she and my brother-in-law have been married for almost a year. I think he thought her lack of furniture was a poor student thing, though my sister isn't overly untidy. they make a good living and have a modest one bedroom apartment with a living room, dinette, and one bathroom. I'm the same way, except I'm not married like she is. I'm not sure what to say to say to my brother-in-law. he says he gets embarrassed when his parents come over and that he still feels like he's 18 and in a frathouse. my sister likes simplicity and she's a musician, who loves music more than fancy furnishings

She has every bit the right to be her as you have to be you. Can't go change the world you can only change yourself. it is a bad battle to choose.

Maybe you can help them compromise - add a few more neutral "adult" furnishings, yet still work the beanbag chairs etc. in there. Ikea has some pretty cool things that should be pleasing to both of them. it doesn't have to be overdone - a few simple things should help him feel happy, yet won't take away the simplicity for your sister.

Since you know your sister so well - maybe you can pick out a few items for him to suggest to her that you know she won't balk at.

Tell this man to buy his own damn furniture.

Tell your brother in law to talk to his wife. he obviously has communication problems and needs to talk about his problems to HER not you.

Brother-in-law trying to set up house with sister and they're having problems?